Thursday, June 24, 2010

Thankful Thursday


Welcome to Thursday everyone. We are one day closer to the weekend. Honestly, I don't know if "weekends" really apply to me anymore since I became a SAHM. No day is a "weekend" when you work 24/7. No breaks, no sleeping in, no mercy. But regardless, we are excited that we are one step closer to Saturday when we get to take the kids to see "Elmo and Friends Live." And if my 20-year-old self ever knew I would use the words "excited" and "Elmo" together in the same sentence I surely would have drown myself in a fog of cheap hairspray and bad tequila right then and there. Oh, how life has changed.

It's been an interesting week here at our house. After many years of contemplating the idea of going into business of his own, hubs finally made the plunge. Monday he resigned from his "corporate" job and opened up his new business. It's all so exciting for him. And while I am not one that likes change, and wouldn't call myself the adventurous type, I am looking forward to his new endeavor. It has brought on every emotion possible just getting ready for the big transition. But it has also taught me to really just let go, trust that all will be okay and enjoy the ride. If anyone can make it in their own business it would be hubs. He has this overwhelming drive and determination that will make him successful.

So this week I am thankful for a mish-mosh of things:
  • Hub's entrepreneurial spirit.
  • A/C. It's approximately 210 degrees outside in the AZ summer sun. And, no, I'm not exaggerating.
  • My mom's group. It's soooo nice to vent to other moms that are going through the same things that I am going through with our kids.
  • Pedicures. Even if I feel like I look a mess everywhere else, at least my toes look good.
  • My cleaning peeps. Oh. My. Goodness. They are wonderful. We only have them come once a month but it makes a world of difference to know that my house gets a total disinfection then. I "try" to keep up with the bathrooms and kitchen (at least) in between, but have I mentioned how chaotic my life feels right now?

What are you thankful for today?

Monday, June 21, 2010

Overheard

Kaiden was sitting on the couch playing with two of his cars, Madelyn was playing with a bunch of toys bouncing from one to another because her attention span is that of a gnat while I was in the kitchen cleaning up from lunch when I overheard Kaiden saying this:

"Dear Jesus, tant tu for dis daaaaaay...tant tu for mommy and daddy....pease help baby teet not hurt. Aaaaaaamen."

Translation: Dear Jesus, thank you for this day. Thank you for mommy and daddy. Please help baby's teeth not to hurt (cause she is cutting 8 teeth right now and CRABBY!) Amen.

"Mommy, I say tant tu Jesus."

Oh, be still my heart.

Thursday, June 17, 2010

Thankful Thursday

In my attempts at an "attitude overhaul" that I previously spoke about, I am going back to writing my Thankful Thursday posts. Because, after all, I did make up our Family Rules and, after all, the final rule was "Thank God everyday for what we have." And if I'm not following the rules then shame on me.

I will say that in the past week since posting my rules, praying for patience, strength and for God to change my heart I have felt an overwhelming peace inside myself. Like I have found some calm amongst the storm. And storms they have been a blowing! Even if this peace is temporary, it's nice to know it's there. It's nice to know it's possible.

Today I am thankful for three simple things:
  • Hubs. His hard work and devotion to his family is amazing! Everything he does is done in love.
  • Two incredibly super cool kids. They may drive me to the brink of insanity most days, but they make me want to be a better mom.

What are you thankful for today?

Tuesday, June 15, 2010

Science Experiment

Let's just say that you knew someone that cut a lemon in half and put the other half in a container in the refrigerator. And let's just say that someone forgot about that half of lemon and didn't manage to check that container until months later. And let's say that certain someone happened to pull it out of the refrigerator last night while doing a thorough clean up of all contents in the fridge. And let's say that the lemon now looked something like a science experiment gone extremely wrong.

Do you:
(a) Throw away the whole thing. Container and all.
or
(b) Throw away just the lemon and attempt to disinfect the container knowing that every time you use that container in the future you will always think of that lemon that grew hair.

What would you do?

Monday, June 14, 2010

12 Month Update

My little baby turned one on June 5th. *sniff, sniff* I seriously can't believe a whole year has gone by.

We didn't do anything extravagant for Madelyn's first birthday. We did have a wonderful day, however, spent with just us. Starting off, we went to our local park for a picnic, fishing and a train ride. Then after naps we had pizza and cupcakes and opened presents. It was a low key day with lots of attention on the birthday girl. Just as it should be!

The highlights of my princess at 12 months are:
-31 3/4 inches long (99%)
-22.06 lbs (68%)
-18 inches head circumference (32%)
-started walking a week before her 1st birthday!
-says "quack, quack" when she sees ducks.
-has 8 teeth, 2 more that just broke through and is currently still working on 3 other molars that will hopefully pop through any day now.
-is totally on solid foods
-drinks from her sippy cup. No more bottle except for night.
-Grabs everything and anything she can get her hands on.

Happy Birthday Pretty! Looking forward to the next year full of surprises!

Friday, June 11, 2010

Not Sad

When I pick Kaiden up from preschool we always have a conversation about how his day was. Today our conversation went something like this:

Me: "Kaiden what did you do in school today, buddy?"
Kaiden: "I cried."
Me: "You cried? When Daddy dropped you off? Why did you cry?"
Kaiden: "I don't know. Iss Ecky say dear Jesus pease Kaiden not sad?"
Me: "Miss Becky said a prayer? Dear Jesus please help Kaiden not to be sad?"
Kaiden: "Yes, Mommy."
Me: "That was nice, buddy. Did that help you not to be sad anymore?"
Kaiden: "Yes, Mommy."
Me: "You know you can always say a prayer and ask Jesus to help you whenever you need him because Jesus is always with you."
Kaiden: "Yeah. Jesus riiiight dare." (pointing to his heart)
Me: "That's right. Jesus is always in your heart."
Kaiden: "In my heart."

Then my heart officially burst into a million pieces from every ounce of his cuteness.

Thursday, June 10, 2010

Our Family Rules

Wow. It's been quite awhile since I have actually found time to sit and write. When I am saying that our house has been in utter chaos the past few months, I am not exaggerating. It's been pure and utter chaos. It's had me kind of down and out and in need of a major attitude overhaul. Just when I think I get the motivation to pick myself out of my slump I find something else happening that throws me right back into my funk. Recently it's been these crazy Phoenix temps that seem to have gone from "cozy, comfy and relaxing" to "You have got to be kidding me" in a matter of one weekend. I'm sweating just thinking about it and it's making my make-up slide off my face. Yuck.

We have been dealing with the terrible twos in our house. Big time. It's like my little boy goes from sweet, gentle and loving to tiny terror in a matter of seconds. Each day I wake up and pray that God give me the strength and patience to deal with the tantrums and whining. Oh the whining! But, by 8:00am I am frazzled, pissed off and ready to jump in the car and never come back. I am tired of it.

That in conjunction with the 50 million everyday things that I have on my plate that never seem to get completed adds to the daily stress that builds and builds. I am realizing that it's making me a person that I don't want to be. The usually calm, mellow, care-free spirit that I used to be has slowly been replaced with a depressed, angry, quick-to-fly-off-the handle creature. It goes against all that I strive for in my family. It goes against all that I long for in my home.

The other night I just happen to be flipping through channels and caught a episode of Dr. Phil about the "3 biggest mistakes you don't know you are making." One of the mistakes had something to do with parenting and setting the tone for the home with your voice and how you react to your loved ones. It's not that I didn't know that raising my voice is a bad choice in front of the children, but I get to a point where I repeat myself over and over and over again that I suddenly snap causing me to use harsh and angry tones. But watching that segment made something click within me. I am tired of the chaos, I am tired of repeating myself and I am tired of the anger. So, I decided it was time for our family rules to go into effect. Simple rules that pertain to the issues that we are currently facing with not only the kids, but us parents as well. My hope is that if our attitude changes as parents that we can filter that down to our children making this home a haven of peace and respect.

I am an avid reader of Katie's blog and not too long ago remember her post about the Dugger's House Guidelines. Doesn't that family always seem to be so calm and patient even with 19 kids?!?!? Insane! Why does their home seem like a place of serenity and love amongst all that chaos?!?! They must be doing something right. So I stole borrowed a few of their ideas so that we may implement the rules in our house as they pertain to the issues that we face on a daily basis.

Our Family Rules:
*No whining.
Do everything without complaining or arguing. Philippians 2:14
*Listen to Daddy and Mommy and do what they say the first time they ask.
Children you belong to the Lord and do the right thing when you obey your parents. The first commandment with a promise says, "Obey your father and your mother and you will have a long and happy life." Ephesians 6:1-2
*Always use "soft words." No yelling or harsh tones.
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but harsh words stir up anger. Proverbs 15:1
*Treat each other and our belongings with respect.
*Be honest.
The Lord detest lying lips but He delights in men that are truthful. Proverbs 12:22
*Love each other. No name calling, no hitting, no pinching and no kicking.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always hopes, always perseveres. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
*Be kind and generous. Share toys, speak kindly to each other and look out for others well-being.
Instead be kind and merciful, and forgive others., just as God forgave you because of Christ. Ephesians 4:32
*Use manners. Say "please," "thank you," and "excuse me."
Treat others just as you want to be treated. Luke 6:31
*Be grateful. Thank God everyday for what you have.
In everything give thanks; for this is God's will for you in Christ Jesus. 1 Thessalonians 5:18

This list will be ever changing as the kids grow up and our "issues" become different. My hope is that this will keep us all accountable and serve as a reminder that we all need to work on ourselves on a daily basis. The way we treat each other and the way we react to issues needs to be modified. I realize that it starts with us. If hubs and I aren't acting in good character and following these rules then how do we expect our kids to? I am ready for us to get back to a calmer place both in our home and in our hearts.